Narcissistic Personality Disorder: COVERT

Covert Narcissistic Personality Disorder (CNPD) is a subtype of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) that is characterized by a person's grandiose sense of self-importance, lack of empathy for others, and need for admiration, but with a more subtle and introverted presentation. 

People with CNPD may appear shy, sensitive, and self-effacing, but they are still preoccupied with fantasies of success, power, and ideal love. They often have a fragile self-esteem and are hypersensitive to criticism, rejection, or perceived slights. They may use tactics such as passive-aggressiveness, victimhood, or self-pity to manipulate others and maintain their sense of superiority.

CNPD can be difficult to diagnose because the symptoms are not as outwardly visible as those of classic NPD. However, some common behavioral and emotional traits of CNPD include:

- A tendency to avoid attention or the spotlight

- A strong need for privacy and solitude

- Difficulty expressing emotions or forming close relationships

- A fear of abandonment or rejection

- A tendency to ruminate or hold grudges

- A sense of entitlement or specialness that is not overtly expressed

What are the signs of covert narcsissism?

Spotting someone with covert narcissistic personality can be challenging, as their behaviors and qualities may not be as overt as those of someone with grandiose narcissism. Here are some common signs of covert narcissism to look out for:

1. Modesty: Covert narcissists may appear humble and self-effacing, but they may also be seeking validation and attention from others by putting themselves down.

2. Sensitivity: Covert narcissists may have a heightened sensitivity to criticism and may become defensive or angry when they feel slighted.

3. Self-absorption: Covert narcissists may be preoccupied with their own thoughts and feelings and may struggle to connect with others on an emotional level.

4. Indirect communication: Covert narcissists may use passive-aggressive or indirect communication to get what they want, rather than being direct and assertive.

5. Victim mentality: Covert narcissists may see themselves as victims and may use this to gain sympathy and attention from others.

6. Envy: Covert narcissists may be envious of others' accomplishments and success, and may feel entitled to the same recognition.

7. Difficulty with intimacy: Covert narcissists may struggle with intimacy and may find it difficult to form close relationships with others.

It's important to note that these behaviors alone do not necessarily indicate covert narcissism. If you suspect that someone you know may have covert narcissistic traits, it's important to seek guidance from a mental health professional who can provide a proper diagnosis and recommend appropriate treatment.

What is the treatment for C.P.D?

Treatment for CNPD typically involves psychotherapy, such as cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) or psychodynamic therapy, which can help individuals gain insight into their patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving. Medication may also be prescribed to address co-occurring conditions such as depression or anxiety.

If you are in a relationship with someone who you suspect has covert narcissistic traits, it's important to take steps to protect your well-being and maintain healthy boundaries. Here are some suggestions:

1. Educate yourself: Learn as much as you can about covert narcissism and its impact on relationships. This can help you understand what you are dealing with and how to best approach the situation.

2. Set boundaries: Set clear boundaries with your partner and communicate them in a direct and respectful manner. This can help prevent conflicts and protect your own well-being.

3. Seek support: Living with someone with covert narcissism can be emotionally challenging, and it's important to seek support from friends, family, or a therapist. They can provide you with a safe space to process your feelings and offer guidance on how to navigate your relationship.

4. Practice self-care: Take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally. This can include engaging in hobbies, spending time with friends, and prioritizing your own needs.

5. Consider therapy: Consider seeking therapy for yourself or couples therapy with your partner. A mental health professional can provide you with tools and strategies to improve communication, manage conflicts, and strengthen your relationship.

It's important to remember that you cannot change your partner's behavior or personality. Ultimately, the decision to seek help and make changes lies with them. If your partner is willing to work on their issues, therapy can be an effective way to address their covert narcissistic traits and improve your relationship. However, if your partner is unwilling or unable to change, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and consider whether the relationship is healthy for you

Thank you for your time!!

Tammy Burns